Paying attention to small gestures of love
02/16/2020
Matthew 5:17-37 Jesus said to
his disciples: “Do not think that I have come to abolish the law or the
prophets. I have come not to abolish but to fulfill. Amen, I say to you, until
heaven and earth pass away, not the smallest letter or the smallest part of a
letter will pass from the law, until all things have taken place. Therefore,
whoever breaks one of the least of these commandments and teaches others to do
so will be called least in the kingdom of heaven. But whoever obeys and teaches
these commandments will be called greatest in the kingdom of heaven. I tell
you, unless your righteousness surpasses that of the scribes and Pharisees, you
will not enter the kingdom of heaven.
There’s a very old proverb that
highlights how minor mistakes can have colossal consequences. It’s called “For
Want of a Nail.” See if you can follow the sequence of cause and effect: “For
want of a nail the shoe was lost. For want of a shoe the horse was lost. For
want of a horse the rider was lost. For want of a rider the message was lost.
For want of a message the battle was lost. For want of a battle the kingdom was
lost. And all for the want of a horseshoe nail.” In other words, an entire
kingdom could be overthrown by the lack of a little nail.
This proverb was placed in a more
scientific setting by the science-fiction writer Ray Bradbury in 1953 in his
short story called “A Sound of Thunder.” Bradbudy popularized the scientific
theory called the “butterfly effect.” Have you ever heard of that? In the
story, a group of explorers travel back in time, 66 million years, to the
Crustaceous Period, when dinosaurs dominated the earth. The lead scientist
explains to the group that they must not disturb anything in the past or else
dramatic change would be unleashed and alter their own future. The
expeditionary team is warned sternly to walk only on an elevated path to avoid
contaminating the environment. At one point, however, one traveler trips off
the path when he’s suddenly startled by a T-Rex. He steps off the elevated path
and steps on a beautiful butterfly. When they return to their original year,
they find a lot has changed: the people speak English differently, wear strange
clothes, and even a recent election turned out differently. Because one
traveler stepped on a butterfly, that small change snowballed down the years
and created a very different future. Horseshoe nails and butterflies may seem
like small things to most of us, but when they’re missing, they mess with the
course of history.
In the gospel today, Jesus gives a
spiritual application to the principle of the butterfly effect. He moves it
from the natural to the supernatural plane; from the environmental to the
ethical level. Notice our Lord’s concern with even the smallest commandments,
when he teaches: “Whoever breaks one of the least of these commandments and
teaches others to do so will be called least in the kingdom of heaven.” Jesus
almost sounds like the scientist in Bradbury’s story warning his time travelers
to take care not to disturb even the hushed beating of a butterfly wing. On the
spiritual and ethical dimensions, therefore, the breaking of a commandment by
committing even small sins can have decisive and dramatic consequences on much
larger scales. In this spiritual case, the kingdom that is lost is the Kingdom
of Heaven.
My friends, may I suggest three
examples where minor mistakes and small sins can lead to catastrophic
consequences? First of all, in marriages, and especially in spousal
communication we see the significance of small things. Why do so many husbands
and wives struggle to communicate effectively, and couple’s conversations
collapse into a shouting match? Obviously, there are many factors, but a
critical component is a failure to notice the small things: a deep sigh of
sadness, the crossed arms of defiance, a slouching posture of resignation, eyes
welling up with tears, a wince of pain and hurt, a hesitation to speak or a
pregnant pause. In other words, successful spousal dialogue demands attention
to what is not said every bit as much as to what is said. In a word, they must
pay attention to the small things, or their marriage as a whole suffers the
consequences. The butterfly effect can also be found in butterfly kisses.
A second example is Pope Francis’
recent apostolic exhortation on the Amazon region called “Querida Amazonia”
which is Spanish for “Beloved Amazon.” The Holy Father does not overlook the
smallest and most vulnerable inhabitants of the Amazon. He explains: “There is
a crucial need to realize that ‘the good functioning of ecosystems also requires
fungi, algae, worms, insects, reptiles and an innumerable variety of
microorganisms’” (Querida Amazonia, 49). That is, the huge untamed Amazon
jungle depends on tiny insects and worms for its equilibrium and even its
existence. By the way, the pope was blasted by the president of Brazil for this
document. The president said brashly: "The Pope may be Argentinian, but
God is Brazilian.” Throwing shade at the pope – seriously?? The president
apparently would not regret stomping on a butterfly or carelessly casting away
a horseshoe nail. But the Holy Father believes such small actions can have
oversized reactions, indeed not only affecting the fate of a kingdom, but that
of an entire planet.
And finally, don’t ignore the small
words and gestures of courtesy and care in your daily interactions with other
people. My brother, Paul, has a happy habit of replying to people’s questions
by politely saying: “Yes sir” or “No sir,” “Yes ma’am” or “No ma’am.” They are
small words but carry significant worth. Spend a few extra minutes listening to
someone instead of hurrying off to your next task. I’m embarrassed to say I
have a horrible habit of doing that: always rushing off to something else. Give
you full attention when you listen to someone, and don’t look at your phone at
the same time, even if Millennials say that’s okay. It’s not okay: look
everyone in the eye. Frequently utter the magic words “Please,” “Thank you,”
“I’m sorry,” “I forgive you,” “You’re right.” Be aware of the appearance of
your face, that is, smile more often. A simple smile and warm hello may be just
what someone needs who’s having a hard day. These tiny tokens of love can be
transformative tickets to peace and joy.
My main point today is that small
actions can have both bad consequences but also good ones. Therefore, they are
not to be overlooked or underestimated. A kingdom can be lost over a misplaced
horseshoe nail or a smashed butterfly. And sometimes that lost kingdom could be
the Kingdom of Heaven.
Praised be Jesus
Christ!
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