Name a Church for Fr. John

 

Understanding the Catholic devotion to Mary

05-25-2026

Acts 1:12-14 After Jesus had been taken up to heaven, the Apostles returned to Jerusalem from the mount called Olivet, which is near Jerusalem, a sabbath day’s journey away. When they entered the city they went to the upper room where they were staying, Peter and John and James and Andrew, Philip and Thomas, Bartholomew and Matthew, James son of Alphaeus, Simon the Zealot, and Judas son of James. All these devoted themselves with one accord to prayer, together with some women, and Mary the mother of Jesus, and his brothers.

Occasionally I give a talk to the OCIA class to describe the differences between Catholics and Protestants. Since the OCIA is full of folks who have largely been raised Protestant and are now interested in Catholicism, I figure they better know what they’re getting into: how deep the water is before they jump into the Catholic swimming pool.  And I use the analogy of $300 trillion.

Don’t get excited. I don’t say Catholics have $300 trillion and Protestants don’t. It’s the other way around. First, I invite them to think about salvation by using a monetary metaphor. All Christians agree that salvation consists of everything Jesus suffered, died, and rose on the third day to give us. Jesus’ crucifixion, death, and resurrection constitute the sum and substance of salvation.

Now, for the sake of my talk, we will call that salvation $300 trillion. Think of $300 trillion as a thought picture, a metaphor, which we substitute for salvation. Now, I suppose some people may prefer the money instead of salvation, but I hope you get my point. Even though all Christians agree on what salvation is – here substitute the $300 trillion – Catholics and Protestants sharply disagree on how we get it.

For most Protestants, you get the whole of salvation – again think $300 trillion – by a sincere act of faith. You accept Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior, and in that instant you are saved. Or, substituting our monetary metaphor, they receive the whole $300 trillion, without one penny left over. With me, so far? Now, Catholics believe you get that salvation that Jesus died and rose to give us quite differently.

We believe Jesus entrusted salvation – again substitute $300 trillion – to the Church, kind of like a bank. And the Church distributes the graces of salvation little by little. We get some of the $300 trillion when we are baptized, we get more when we attend Mass, and more when we pray before meals, when we help the poor, when we do penance, and make personal sacrifices. That is, we don’t get the whole $300 trillion at once, but rather piecemeal.

Now, if you can wrap your mind around this monetary metaphor of salvation as $300 trillion, you begin to see why Catholics and Protestants see Christianity so differently. For example, Protestants can tell you the day and the hour they were saved. It was the moment they accepted Christ as their personal Lord and Savior. Using our monetary metaphor, that was the moment they won $300 trillion. You would remember the day you won the Chicago lottery!

Catholics, by contrast, have a hard time trying to answer the seemingly simple question, “Have you been saved?” Most Catholics stammer and stutter trying to give a coherent come back. The best answer is: “I’ll tell you the day I die.” Why? Because only at the end of our earthly life will we know whether we have been greedy enough for grace or not.

St. Paul taught the Philippians the same truth, urging them: “Work out your salvation in fear and trembling” (Phil 2:12). In other words, go frequently to the bank, the Church, and withdraw the graces of salvation. But we’re not very greedy for grace. This monetary metaphor also sheds light on the Catholic devotion to the saints and why that makes most Protestant cringe.

Catholics believe the saints were super greedy for grace, so we want to imitate them in that holy desire. St. Peter had, say, $300 million, St. Paul had $350 million, Mother Teresa $100 million, St. John Paul II perhaps $200 million. You and I? We have about 75 cents. But for Protestants saints are not so special. Why not?

Because if they have been saved, they have the whole $300 trillion. If they have not been saved, how much do they have? Zero. In the Protestant universe there are only two kinds of people: those who have been saved, and those who have not been saved; those with $300 trillion in their pockets, and those with nothing in their spiritual pockets.

And that’s why Catholics name churches for saints, like St. Boniface, while Protestants name church “Harvest Time,” or “New Life,” or “Community Bible.” How we name churches is not incidental but reflects a much deeper theology of how to be saved and what it means to be a Christian. And in some respects, the Catholic and Protestant worldviews are radically different and virtually irreconcilable.

Today, we celebrate the Memorial of Mary, Mother of the Church, yet ANOTHER feast in honor of the Blessed Virgin. What is up with these crazy Catholics? Why are they so hung up on Mary? Why do they name churches, and feast days, and their daughters for a peasant girl from Nazareth, who lived 2,000 years ago and whose life was unremarkable in any meaningful respect?

She didn’t build anything; she didn’t write any books or compose great music, she didn’t conquer any countries. So what’s the big deal about Mary? Well, here our monetary metaphor comes to the rescue. Catholics are convinced that in the whole history of the world – and the whole history yet to unfold – only one person ever received the whole $300 trillion of salvation, namely, Mary.

She was rich in the only way that ultimately matters: rich in grace. You and I have about 75 cents. Again, for Protestants, Mary is simply another Christian who has been saved. In other words, Mary has $300 trillion in her pockets, and (if we're saved) we have $300 trillion in our pockets. Mary is simply another saved Christian, no more, no less. So stop making statues of her, or naming churches for her. You might as well name a church for Fr. John.

Praised be Jesus Christ!

Graduation Season

What it takes to graduate from disciple to apostle

05-23-2026

John 21:20-25 Peter turned and saw the disciple following whom Jesus loved, the one who had also reclined upon his chest during the supper and had said, "Master, who is the one who will betray you?" When Peter saw him, he said to Jesus, "Lord, what about him?" Jesus said to him, "What if I want him to remain until I come? What concern is it of yours?  You follow me." So the word spread among the brothers that that disciple would not die. But Jesus had not told him that he would not die, just "What if I want him to remain until I come? What concern is it of yours?" It is this disciple who testifies to these things and has written them, and we know that his testimony is true. There are also many other things that Jesus did, but if these were to be described individually, I do not think the whole world would contain the books that would be written.

This past Wednesday we celebrated our I.C. school graduation, and after Mass I remarked to Dc. Christopher: “Graduation season is over!” Seeing the puzzled look on his face, I explained: “Our non-Catholics have graduated at Easter and become Catholic. Our 2nd graders graduated making their First Communion. Our teenagers graduated making their Confirmation. And our elementary, middle school, high schoolers, and college students have all graduated. Whew, we can finally rest!”

But Dc. Christopher corrected me adding: “Not yet! We still have the graduations to the diaconate and priesthood!” And he was exactly right. Today Josh Osborne will be ordained a deacon, the last step before priesthood. And 5 deacons, including Dc. Christopher, will be ordained as priests next Saturday, May 30th. In other words, “no rest for the weary”! Graduation season does not end until the ordinations of our new priests for the diocese.

How fitting, then, as we come to the penultimate day of Easter – tomorrow is the last day, with the celebration of Pentecost – that we read from the end of the gospel of John, chapter 21. Why is it so fitting? Earlier in this chapter Jesus gives in effect his commencement speech to Peter about loving him "more than these" and feeding his sheep. And now we hear how Peter and John (always obliquely referred to as the beloved disciple) graduate from disciples to apostles, and represent the two great Christians vocations: the active life and the contemplative life.

Let’s look a little closer at this intriguing, even if brief, dialogue between Peter and Jesus, regarding John, the beloved disciple and their graduation. We read: “When Peter saw him (meaning John), he said to Jesus, ‘Lord, what about him?’ Jesus said to him, ‘What if I want him to remain until I come? What concern is that of yours? You follow me’.”

Now, many interpreters take Jesus’ words “until I come” to refer to the end of the world – maybe that’s what you were thinking – that is, when Jesus returns in glory. But clearly Jesus has not returned in glory and John died 2,000 years ago. So was Jesus mistaken, or worse, did he deceive his disciples?

By the way, this is not some small difficulty or discrepancy in the gospel. Jesus repeatedly states his intention to return rather soon. In fact, in Matthew, Jesus states explicitly: “this generation will not pass away until all these things have taken place” (Mt 24:34). As a result some Christians, unable to square Jesus words with the historical record, have lost their faith in the Lord and left the Church.

But one way to square the circle is to understand Jesus’ words to mean not the end of THE world, but the end of A world, meaning, the Jewish world, which occurred in 70 A.D. with the destruction of Jerusalem. The Jewish world effectively ended for all intents and purposes. In other words, we must learn to interpret Jesus’ words and teachings in a more liturgical and supernatural way rather than in a literal and scientific way.

In a sense, this difference of interpretation is precisely the dividing line between the Old and the New Testaments. How so? In the Old Testament, concepts like king, kingdom, power, glory, temple, sacrifice all had earthly evidence: King David, conquered territory, military muscle, a glorious temple, etc. You could touch it and taste it, see it and feel it. There was no scientific doubt.

With the dawn of the New Testament, however, Jesus inaugurates an even more glorious kingdom, temple, priesthood, and sacrifice, but now you need the eyes of faith to see it. There is no scientific proof. And I would suggest to you that this new way of seeing, thinking, and living is the most important graduation ceremony we have to go through.

In other words, is our mindset one that requires everything to be proven scientifically, like Thomas who demanded proof of Jesus’ resurrection by inserting his hand into his side, or can we accept things on faith, and believe in them sacramentally? Put even more pertinently, all the other graduation ceremonies we celebrate – first Communions, Confirmations, becoming Catholic, completing school – are all but precursors and predecessors.

Of what?  Of the only graduation ceremony that ultimately matters, namely, graduating from the Old Testament to the New, from a world built on facts to a world built on faith, from a universe where the highest authority is science to a cosmos where the highest authority is sacrament. And when you see, think, and live that way, you can graduate from being a disciple to being an apostle. Because only then will graduation season finally be over.

Praised be Jesus Christ!

Apex and Nadir

 

Seeing how Jesus is present in highs and lows

05-20-2026

John 17:11b-19 Lifting up his eyes to heaven, Jesus prayed, saying: “Holy Father, keep them in your name that you have given me, so that they may be one just as we are one. When I was with them I protected them in your name that you gave me, and I guarded them, and none of them was lost except the son of destruction, in order that the Scripture might be fulfilled. But now I am coming to you. I speak this in the world so that they may share my joy completely. I gave them your word, and the world hated them, because they do not belong to the world any more than I belong to the world. I do not ask that you take them out of the world but that you keep them from the Evil One. They do not belong to the world any more than I belong to the world. Consecrate them in the truth. Your word is truth. As you sent me into the world, so I sent them into the world. And I consecrate myself for them, so that they also may be consecrated in truth.”

My first pastor, whom I worked with as his associate, was Msgr. J. Gaston Hebert. He was the pastor of Christ the King in Little Rock, and the lessons I learned from him could fill the encyclopedia Brittanica. Once when I returned from a small vacation, he asked me, “Well, John, what was the apex and the nadir of your little vacation?”

Before I answered, I had to run and look up what the word “nadir” meant. Basically, he asked what was the best and worst experiences of my vacation. What a great way to analyze any experience: a vacation, a school year, a marriage, the priesthood. What was the apex and the nadir?

As I stand on the cusp of my 30th anniversary of priestly ordination would you mind if I shared the apex and nadir of the past 30 years as an ordained Catholic priest? Of course, it’s hard to pick one apex because I have enjoyed many mountain top experiences.

They are like the peaks of the Himalayan mountain range as they pierce the bright blue Tibetan skyline. But undeniably the day of my ordination would rise at the Mt. Everest among all the other apexes. As Psalm 110:4 says, “You are a priest forever according to the order of Melchizedek.” And by “forever” the psalmist means also in heaven.

A few days ago Dc. Christhoper asked if I remembered the homily from my ordination Mass. And surprisingly, I did. Bishop Andrew McDonald spoke eloquently about how my parents were like the wise men who came from the East (India), bringing gifts.

My parents did not deliver gold, frankincense, or myrrh, but their three children: Paul, John, and Mary. Indeed, what better gifts can anyone give to the world than their own children, who will live forever and change the world in unimaginable ways? Every child is not only “God’s gift to humanity,” but also every parent’s gift to humanity.

On the flip-side of the nadirs, I have to admit there have been likewise plenty of deep valleys and ravines to pick from. But perhaps the darkest valley of all was when my nephew Noah died on February 3, 2017. Next February 3, 2027 will mark his 10year anniversary.

But I can recount the dreadful moments when we heard the news and how the shockwaves swept over my family, and we still feel its unsettling reverberations. Just like there is no greater joy than the birth of a child, there is not deeper despair than the death of a child. Surely, every parent’s apex and nadir, and priest-uncle’s too.

Today we hear the second installment of John 17, known traditionally as Jesus’ high priestly prayer. And in a sense, our Lord, too, reflects on the apex and nadir of his life and ministry as the Messiah. Among the apexes of his 33 years on earth, he lists his apostles, his spiritual sons.

Jesus would give his blessed boys to the world like my parents gave their 3 children to the world. And perhaps Jesus’ nadir would be Judas, who betrayed him, whom he refers to ominously as “the son of destruction.” Just as Jesus has spiritual sons, so the devil produces spiritual progeny.

As we enter more profoundly into Jesus’ high priestly prayer today, and await the outpouring of the Holy Spirit at Pentecost, perhaps you can spend a few moments and follow Msgr. Hebert’s advice. What would you consider the apex and nadir of your life? Of all the highlights of your life what stands tallest as the Mt. Everest?

Of all the lowlights what would constitute the nadir, the valley of tears for you? But more importantly, try to see how God’s hand guided you and his grace sustained you through it all. You were never alone: neither when you stood on the mountain nor when you trudged through the valley.

When I was ordained on May 25, 1996, I had a little holy card made to remember the occasion. On the front of the card was a black-and-white pencil sketch of a bishop ordaining a priest. But Jesus was standing behind the bishop, and of course he was the One who truly ordained.

And the words on the bottom conveyed a message that still inspires me to this day: “Great is this mystery, and great the dignity of priests, to whom that is given, which is not granted to angels.” Surely with an apex like that, we should be able to handle all the nadirs that come along.

Praised be Jesus Christ!

Axe of the Apostles

 

Appreciating the work of the Spirit in modern apostles

05-18-2026

Acts 19:1-8 While Apollos was in Corinth,Paul traveled through the interior of the country and down to Ephesus where he found some disciples. He said to them, “Did you receive the Holy Spirit when you became believers?” They answered him, “We have never even heard that there is a Holy Spirit.” He said, “How were you baptized?” They replied, “With the baptism of John.” Paul then said, “John baptized with a baptism of repentance, telling the people to believe in the one who was to come after him, that is, in Jesus.” When they heard this, they were baptized in the name of the Lord Jesus. And when Paul laid his hands on them, the Holy Spirit came upon them, and they spoke in tongues and prophesied. Altogether there were about twelve men. He entered the synagogue, and for three months debated boldly with persuasive arguments about the Kingdom of God.

During the pandemic back in 2020 everyone had a lot of time on their hands, especially priests. And everyone was working from home, which meant most people were not working. I decided to record some Bible studies and post them on the church website in case people wanted to read the Bible instead of work.

One 10-part study was on the Acts of the Apostles with the cheeky title “Axe of the Apostles” – spelled “a-x-e.” If you step back and survey the whole book of Acts, it is roughly divisible into two halves, the first focusing on St. Peter, and the second centering on St. Paul. In a sense, Peter and Paul are the two major “axes” that the Holy Spirit used to clear the world of the pagan forest so he could then build up his kingdom on earth.

Chapters 1-12 (or 15, the Council of Jerusalem) Peter is the most prominent, and from 12 (or 15) – 28 St. Paul runs the show. In other words, the Acts of the Apostles is not so much about the exploits of all 12 apostles but more narrowly about two, the pillars of the primitive Church, Sts. Peter and Paul. And we see the successors of these two pillars, the pope and our bishop continue to wield the axe to clear the world and our diocese of old paganisms and new threats to the kingdom of God.

The reason we should attentively study the original Acts of the Apostles (Peter and Paul) is so we can understand the current acts of the apostles (the pope and our bishop). Our first reading this morning is taken from Acts 19:1-8, which now you know is part of the second half of the book dealing with St. Paul, a bishop.

And St. Luke, the human author, describes how it belongs to the bishop’s office to confer the gifts of the Holy Spirit, just like our bishop comes annually to our parish for Confirmation and giving the Spirit to young Catholics. We read: “And when Paul laid hands on them, the Holy Spirit came upon them, and they spoke in tongues and prophesied.”

Can you catch how the Holy Spirit continues to wield the axe of modern day apostles, meaning bishops, to clear the world of the forests of faithlessness and futility? And just like during the primitive Church the real forests of lack of faith are not outside somewhere else in the world, but inside each human heart, where there grow the dense and crowded trees of doubt, depressions, rivalries, ambition, laziness, lust, and so forth.

Let me share a recent experience where I felt the sharp edge of the axe of the apostles today. Last week I received an email from a man named Anthony who asked if we would offer the Traditional Latin Mass (TLM for short) here at I.C. He wrote: “You would be surprised how many young people with families would fill the pews of Immaculate Conception Church. The new high altar that was recently installed would be ideal for the TLM. Latin would unite all people of different races and creeds.”

Now, how would you reply to such a request? I remembered the axe of the apostles, Peter and Paul yesterday, and pope and bishop today, and responded like this: “The traditional Latin Mass is indeed very beautiful and inspires many Catholics, and notably the younger generation.” By the way, can you hear the big but coming? People used to compliment Msgr. Hebert by saying: “He could tell you you’re going to hell in such a way you would look forward to the ride.” It’s a shame he never became an axe of the apostles.

I continued, “However, the bishop has made it clear, following the direction of Traditionis Custodes (the pope’s directive limiting where the TLB may be celebrated), that diocesan priests are not permitted to celebrate the TLM in our parish.” Then I added: “Consequently, anyone wishing to attend the TLM must make the trip to either Our Lady of Sorrows in Lowell, or to St. John the Baptist in Cabot.” Now, do you think Anthony enjoyed the ride?

What’s my point this morning? It’s basically this: the fifth book of the New Testament does not merely have a historical value, what happened in the early Church after Jesus ascended and the Holy Spirit descended. It is certainly valuable for that. But it also contains a profoundly practical value for us today.

We see the Holy Spirit wielding the axe of the apostles with great effect today as he continues to clear the forest of foolishness and plant the seeds of faith. In case you have too much time on your hands – maybe because you’re working from home – reread the Acts of the Apostles and see if you can feel its sharp edge.

Praised be Jesus Christ!

Looks and Love

 

Learning to shine with the beauty of Jesus

05-17-2026

Matthew 28:16-20 The eleven disciples went to Galilee, to the mountain to which Jesus had ordered them. When they saw him, they worshiped, but they doubted. Then Jesus approached and said  to them, “All power in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Go, therefore, and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, teaching them to observe all that I have commanded you. And behold, I am with you always, until the end of the age.”

Last week I had a discussion with a young man who mentioned the male subculture called “looksmaxxing.” It was new to me, but have you heard of it? This young Catholic explained that looksmaxxing is a modern mania urging men to improve their looks using such means as dieting, exercise, or buying expensive clothes. But sometimes maxxing can go to extremes and consist of reconstructive surgery and anabolic steroids, and even bone-smashing to create a chiseled jawline (just like mine).

How different this shallow world of looksmaxxers is from the dream of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., when he famously said: “I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.” In other words, true beauty is on the inside, the content of one’s character – which we might call lovemaxxing – rather than simply on the outside which obsesses over looksmaxxing.

Today we celebrate the Solemnity of the Ascension of Jesus into heaven. Our Lord takes his place at the Father’s right hand as the king and ruler of all creation. We might say the Ascension is the moment when Jesus’ human body has reached the pinnacle of male attractiveness, maybe Jesus was even sporting a chiseled chin.

But Jesus’ internal beauty would shine even far brighter than his external appearance. Why? Well, because his Sacred Heart beats with ineffable love demonstrated in his suffering and death on the cross. The Ascended Jesus is Martin Luther King’s dreaming walking. In other words, the epitome of true male or female attractiveness is when inner beauty of love shines through the body.

Let me give you two examples of true, interior beauty. This weekend we will celebrate the First Holy Communion of 69 young people, and these precious children will be both looksmaxxing and lovemaxxing. How so? Well, before they receive Jesus into their bodies and souls, they all went to confession. Nothing causes greater ugliness and disfigurement than sin.

On the other hand, there is nothing more beautiful than holiness because it is the beauty of the heart shining through the body glowing with the grace of Christ. And after their interior mansion is made pure and perfect, they enthrone Jesus the King of kings to rule in their hearts as he reigns in heaven today. If we look at these children with the eyes of faith we see a mini-Ascension: Jesus reigns in their hearts for the whole world to see.

The second example of true beauty is my parents, who celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary on Saturday. They were married on May 16, 1966, and my mom remembered: “It was 116 degrees in New Delhi, India that day and no air-conditioning!” But it wasn’t just hot outside, it there was a hot-looking couple getting married inside. My mom was a 25-year-old breath-taking beauty and my dad was a 32-year-old stud with a chiseled chin.

Even more amazing is they’ve only gotten better looking over the last 60 years. How’s that possible? Because they have been lovemaxxing on the inside with God’s grace. Married in the church, raising 3 kids, moving to a foreign country with pennies in their pockets, but with a dream bigger than Martin Luther King’s: to give their children more opportunities and a better life than they had.

On their 60th wedding anniversary, I hope they can see that dream has come true. And if my parents have taught us 3 kids one overarching lesson in life, it’s that true beauty is on the inside, the beauty of love. Just like Jesus ascended and glorified body still bears the scars caused by the nails, and the lance, and the crown, but still shines in splendor and glory, so my parents’ older bodies are not less beautiful but immeasurably more gorgeous, because they shine with the beauty of love.

I can’t image a more perfect day to get married than the Solemnity of the Ascension, even if it was 116 degrees outside with no air-conditioning inside. Why not? Because true beauty is not skin-deep but rather radiates from the heart. In other words, real and lasting beauty is not a matter of looks but of a matter of love.

Praised be Jesus Christ!

The Two Greatest People

 

Paying tribute to my parents on their 60th wedding anniversary

05-16-2026

John 16:23b-28 Jesus said to his disciples: “Amen, amen, I say to you, whatever you ask the Father in my name he will give you. Until now you have not asked anything in my name; ask and you will receive, so that your joy may be complete. “I have told you this in figures of speech. The hour is coming when I will no longer speak to you in figures but I will tell you clearly about the Father. On that day you will ask in my name, and I do not tell you that I will ask the Father for you. For the Father himself loves you, because you have loved me and have come to believe that I came from God. I came from the Father and have come into the world. Now I am leaving the world and going back to the Father.”

Today is the day that changed my life forever and I wasn’t even there to witness it. On May 16, 1966 my parents, Raichelamma and Antony Konuparampil got married in New Delhi, India. And if you do the math quickly, you can figure out today is their 60th wedding anniversary.

I just want to take a moment and give a shout-out to the two greatest people I have ever known, my mom and dad. Their enduring love for each other not only brought me and my brother and sister into the world, their love taught me the most important lessons of my life.

One lesson my parents’ love taught me was a desire to be a priest. While I was still in the seminary someone asked me what inspired me to be a priest, and immediately without thinking, I replied: “the love of my mom and dad!” That might seem like a paradoxical reply since how can married love inspire a celibate vocation?

But at the root of both marriage and celibacy lies unconditional love. In marriage one’s unconditional love for a spouse, in celibate priesthood one’s unconditional love for the Church. To paraphrase James Carville, the democratic strategist, “It’s the unconditional love, stupid.” Both marriage and priesthood spring from the fountain of unconditional love, namely, God’s love.

Another lesson my parents’ marriage has taught me is that spousal and family love beat at the heart of all existence, all creation. The whole reason God created the cosmos was to share his divine love with others, just like a husband and wife want to share their love with their children.

Indeed, their children are literally the embodiment of mom and dad’s love. I am a walking testament of my parents’ unconditional love. Their love should be as inseparable as trying to cut me into two pieces. The unconditional love of marriage explains why God created: to share his love.

But that same spousal love gives context to why God the Son came to redeem us. As Jesus said in the gospel today: “I came from the Father and have come into the world. Now I am leaving the world and going back to the Father.” What did Jesus come into the world to do? St. Paul explained to the Ephesians that Jesus’ love for humanity is best described in terms of a marriage.

Hence he wrote famously in Ephesians 5:25: “Husbands love your wives, even as Christ loved the church and handed himself over for her.” In other words, Jesus’ crucifixion and death was in essence a dowry he paid to win the hand of his bride and take her home to heaven. And the sacraments are how Jesus continues to pour out his spousal love from the cross for his Bride. Can you see how marriage unravels the mystery of why God redeemed us?

Another lesson my parents’ 60-year-marriage teaches me is to remember the meaning of marriage in a world on the verge of forgetting its true meaning. Marriage at root is for unity (between two people) and for procreativity (to bring more people into the world), or as Professor Janet Smith says, “for babies and for bonding.”

But everywhere you turn today, people suffer from amnesia about the meaning of marriage. For instance, in 2022, Deborah Hodge married her cat in London so her landlord would not evict her. He could evict a cat, but not a spouse. Last year Chris Cagle proposed to marry his AI chatbot and she predictably said, “Yes!” Now, he didn’t actually marry a computer but he tried to.

My friends, we are living in a world that is growing increasingly disturbed and even dangerous. And the bone at the bottom of the cauldron is the meaning of marriage. And the Catechism teaches what that meaning is, that marriage, like priesthood, is supposed to be about service: service to your spouse, service to your children, service to the wider community, and a service to the cosmos.

As you know, there are 3 sacraments of initiation (Baptism, Confirmation, and Communion), two sacraments of healing (confession and Anointing of the Sick), and two sacraments of service (Holy Orders and Holy Matrimony). And that lesson of service is another lesson my parents’ 60-year marriage has taught me. We are put here on this planet to serve one another: either as one spouse serves another or as a priest and nun serve the world.

Jesus said in Mk 10:45 (the gospel in a nutshell): “For the Son of Man did not come to be served but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for many.” That verse in the gospel of Mark sums up the meaning of marriage – namely, service. And marriage, in turn, sums up the meaning of everything else, namely, sharing unconditional love. Happy 60th anniversary, mom and dad, the two greatest people I know.

Praised be Jesus Christ!

Guided by Two Hands

 

Seeing how God and Mary guided John Paul II

05/13/2026

John 16:12-15 Jesus said to his disciples: "I have much more to tell you, but you cannot bear it now. But when he comes, the Spirit of truth, he will guide you to all truth. He will not speak on his own, but he will speak what he hears, and will declare to you the things that are coming. He will glorify me, because he will take from what is mine and declare it to you. Everything that the Father has is mine; for this reason I told you that he will take from what is mine and declare it to you."

Every morning around 5:45 I greet the high school students who attend Ozark Catholic Academy in Tontitown before they depart for school. We say the Our Father in Latin. A few weeks ago I was talking to a senior and her mother as they waited to leave and we discussed Pope Leo XIV and how young he was to be elected pope at age 69.

I made the comment, “But John Paul II was only 58 when he became pope and that’s so young!” And the senior literally laughed out loud – “Ha!” – at my assertion that 58 was “young.” To an 18-year-old who’s fit as a fiddle, being 58 must seem as old as the hills. But it was very providential that the Polish pontiff was so young because his excellent health helped him to survive an assassination attempt three years later on May 13, 1981.

Some of you might remember the sunny afternoon that Pope John Paul II was wheeling around St. Peter’s Square in his popemobile, smiling and greeting pilgrims when Mehemet Ali Agca shot the Holy Father four times. John Paul, of course, because of his deep devotion to Mary, gave the Blessed Mother the credit for saving his life.

May 13 is the feast of Our Lady of Fatima and John Paul insisted Mary’s hand had moved the bullet away from his vital organs. Who is Our Lady of Fatima? Our Lady of Fatima is one of the virtually innumerable titles for the Blessed Virgin Mary. She appeared from May 13 to October 13, 1917 to three peasant children in Fatima, Portugal. Mary’s titles often arise from the location where she appears, in this case Fatima, Portugal.

By the way, Mary must be a polyglot, someone who speaks a lot of languages, because she invariably appears to illiterate children or peasants and addresses them in their native tongue. When she appeared before Lucia, Francisco, and Jacinta, she spoke to them in perfect Portuguese. If Mary appears to you, she will have a soft southern drawl, “Ya’ll come back, hear?”

Now a more subtle connection between Our Lady of Fatima and John Paul revolves around the third secret of Fatima. Mary revealed 3 secrets to Lucia, Francisco, and Jacinta, and the third one – which the Vatican publicized in 2000 – referred to a bishop dressed in white (the pope) who traveling through a ruined city (ancient Rome) would be killed by soldiers (Mehemet Ali Agca).

But John Paul interpreted that secret to be an advance warning to help him survive the assassination attempt. In other words, John Paul did not believe May 13 was a coincidence but rather a providence: God’s hand guiding history, especially the pope’s own personal history. We might say that as Mary’s motherly hand guided the bullet away from John Paul’s vital organs, God’s fatherly hand had been guiding John Paul’s whole life so that he met that bullet on Mary’s feast day.

Tony Robbins, a popular motivational speaker, holds an annual seminar called “Date with Destiny” to help people improve their lives. John Paul believed May 13 was his “date with destiny” where Mary’s hand and God’s hand worked powerfully together to save his life and to strengthen his faith. The assassination attempt did not discourage the pope; it made his more determined than ever.

My friends, we all have a date with destiny. Oh, I don’t mean you should attend a Tony Robbins motivational tent revival, but to discern carefully how God the Father’s hand through his providence and Mother Mary’s hand through her prayers guide our own lives. People of faith cannot countenance living by luck, or believe in karma, or knocking on wood so something bad does not happen, or avoid talking about a NBA player’s perfect free throw stat as he steps up to take one, or how baseball player wear the same underwear while they are on a winning streak. That is all superstitious bunk.

Rather, we must adopt the attitude of little children, like Jacinto, Francisco, and Lucia, who are docile to the guidance of a father’s and mother’s hand in their life. That is why the standard Catholic prayer is always: one Our Father, one Hail Mary, and one Glory Be. Why? Because we submit ourselves, especially our wills, to the providence of the Father, and to the prayerful protection of our Mother, so we can glorify the Holy Trinity in all we do. Then we will live a truly worthy Christian life.

Praised be Jesus Christ!