The Charlie Kirk Effect

 

Purifying our motivations for following Jesus

11/05/2025

Luke 14:25-33 Great crowds were traveling with Jesus, and he turned and addressed them, "If anyone comes to me without hating his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. Whoever does not carry his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple. Which of you wishing to construct a tower does not first sit down and calculate the cost to see if there is enough for its completion? Otherwise, after laying the foundation and finding himself unable to finish the work the onlookers should laugh at him and say, 'This one began to build but did not have the resources to finish.' Or what king marching into battle would not first sit down and decide whether with ten thousand troops he can successfully oppose another king advancing upon him with twenty thousand troops? But if not, while he is still far away, he will send a delegation to ask for peace terms. In the same way, everyone of you who does not renounce all his possessions cannot be my disciple."

I will never forget the day I put my faith above my family. I was a junior in high school and had decided to go into seminary to become a priest. I wanted to share my decision with my family and chose dinner time when everyone was together. It felt like dating someone and finally bringing the girl home to meet your family.

I was more nervous than a long-tailed cat in a room full of rocking chairs. That dinner took place almost 40 years ago but I still remember it like yesterday. I can still see where everyone sat at the table and how each person reacted to the news. My mom broke down in tears, my father stayed stoic and furrowed his brow in thought.

But my brother blurted out, “Oh, John, you’ll change your mind after a year in college.” You know, there were many hard days in seminary but I remembered my brother’s lack of confidence, and I stuck it out just to spite him. So, I can confidently say I am a priest today thanks to my brother.

Now, in the gospel today when Jesus says: “If anyone comes to me without hating his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple” (Lk 14:26), he was not talking about how angrily I reacted to my brother’s comments at that fateful dinner.

Rather, our Lord’s larger point is about purifying our motives for following him. Obviously, Jesus has no desire to contradict the fourth commandment of the Decalogue (Ten Commandments): “Honor your father and mother.” I needed to purify my reasons to be a priest and not to stick it out in seminary just to spite my brother.

Let me give you some examples of needing to scrutinize and purify our reasons for following Jesus. We have seen an up-tick in people coming to Mass, and even joining the OCIA classes to become Catholic. Last night I celebrated the Rite of Welcome for Robert Cloninger, a Methodist minister who will become Catholic. This year may be our biggest OCIA class ever, and people are still joining the class.

I have seen many new faces at Mass on Sundays. Have you? Some people have commented that this influx is “the Charlie Kirk effect.” That is, many people, especially young men, inspired by Charlie Kirk’s example and eloquence are exploring Catholicism. Others argue that when our culture is growing more anti-Christian, it’s hard to embrace both worlds, and so people are choosing the Catholic faith in a more intentional and life-changing way.

Now, we always happily welcome people to Mass, and to join the OCIA classes and learn about Catholicism. But we caution them that they should not become Catholic because “everyone is doing it.” The faith cannot become a fad. You know what “fad” stands for? The three letters stand for “for a day.”

Or, as Archbishop Fulton Sheen memorably put it, “If you marry this age, you become a widow in the next.” Everyone interested in Catholicism today, therefore, needs to purify their motives and not pursue the faith just because it’s trendy or “going viral” as they say.

My friends, purifying our motives for following Jesus does not occur instantly or in one dramatic decision, but rather entails a life-long process of refinement, like purifying gold from all its impurities and alloys. I was ordained a priest at the age of 26 and I am now 56 – so next May will be my 30 anniversary of ordination.

And yet I am still daily discovering less than ideal motives in my heart: laziness, choosing the path of least resistance, job security, instant respect when I don the priestly collar, etc. Perhaps married couples must find new and more genuine reasons to stay married after 10, 20, 30 years of being together.

The booster rockets of initial love will burn off before you get into the deep space of marriage and children, wrinkles and retirement. In other words, we cannot follow Jesus as a Catholic, or choose the priesthood, or enter the covenant of marriage, as a fad (for a day), but must constantly purify our motivations.

Praised be Jesus Christ!