Monday, August 1, 2022

The Bishop’s Best Man

Witnessing the ordination of a new bishop

7/24/2022

Lk 11:1-13 Jesus was praying in a certain place, and when he had finished, one of his disciples said to him,"Lord, teach us to pray just as John taught his disciples." He said to them, "When you pray, say: Father, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come. Give us each day our daily bread and forgive us our sins for we ourselves forgive everyone in debt to us, and do not subject us to the final test."

Have you ever heard the old saying, “Always a bridesmaid and never the bride”? That is how I looked on Friday while attending Bishop Erik Pohlmeier’s ordination as the new bishop of the Diocese of St. Augustine in Florida. Bishop Pohlmeier asked me to be one of his two “honorary chaplains” at the ordination Mass, which is basically like a best man at a wedding. Like a best man stands closest to the groom at the wedding, and usually carries the rings, so I sat right next to the new bishop and carry whatever he gave me. He handed me his program.

But I was not sad like the bridesmaid wishing she was the bride. My heart was bursting with pride and joy for my friend who was now a bishop. I felt like St. John the Baptist when he saw Jesus, and said: “The one who has the bride is the bridegroom, the best man, who stands and listens to him, rejoices greatly at the bridegroom’s voice. So this joy of mine has been made complete” (Jn 3:29).

One of the less-known, but no less significant, symbols of a bishop is his episcopal ring. Normally, we picture a bishop with his fancy tall hat (called a miter) and his cool stick (called a crosier). But most people forget all about his ring. That ring, I think, is as important an image of what a bishop is and does as his big hat and his cool stick. How so? Well, that ring means that Bishop Pohlmeier is a bridegroom, like Jesus. And on Friday, Bishop Pohlmeier married his new diocese, his new bride, because he got a ring.

Another cool custom about being a bishop is you get to design your own coat of arms. Have you heard of this? This tradition dates back to the medieval days when royal families had a coat of arms with symbols that spoke about their shared heritage and family values. Perhaps your family has one. Bishop Pohlmeier’s coat of arms expresses his deep faith and the spiritual convictions which he will share with his new bride, the Diocese of St. Augustine. Let me just touch on three symbols in his coat of arms.

At the bottom is an unrolled scroll with Bishop Pohlmeier’s motto, which reads: “Seek first the Kingdom of God.” Before Bishop Pohlmeier tells others to “go seek the Kingdom”, he has personally sought the Kingdom. Many years ago Bishop Pohlmeier – he was Fr. Erik back then – and I took a trip to Ireland. We visited old castles, drove down narrow Irish roads, climbed to the top of the Skellig Islands, and even visited a pub called “Dirty Nelly’s”. You have to say that with an Irish brogue: “Dirty Nelly’s”.

But before we did any of that, though, we said Mass every morning in our little bed and breakfast. Bishop Pohlmeier taught me to always seek first the Kingdom of God by insisting on Mass every morning. The Mass is where the King (Jesus) feeds his subjects. The rest of the day may be great while on vacation, but it was always just gravy in comparison to the the Mass. Bishop Pohlmeier will share that priority of the Mass as the Kingdom meal with his new bride. Be fed by the King first, because everything else is gravy compared to his Food.

Another image in the new bishop’s coat of arms is the crescent moon, one of the enduring symbols of the Blessed Virgin Mary. I entered the seminary a couple of years before the future bishop. One day we were talking about why we wanted to be priests and I asked him what made him want to go into the seminary? He answered that he had gone on a pilgrimage to a Marian shrine in Europe and fell in love with Mary. He felt Mary calling him to follow Jesus as a priest.

But my question was more than idle curiosity. I was really wondering what could possibly make such a young, handsome, intelligent, athletic, energetic, a born leader, who had the world by the tail, want to give all that up and become a priest? I thought I was the only one like that! The answer was simple: we both fell in love with the same woman, the Blessed Virgin Mary. Every priest is a man deeply in love, and the woman we love is Mary. Bishop Pohlmeier will share his devotion and love for Mary with his new bride, and I hope the Diocese of St. Augustine will not get too jealous.

The third feature of the coat of arms is the three tiers of tassels that hang on both sides of the shield. These tiers are shaped like a pyramid, with the bottom tier containing three tassels, the second level with two tassels, and the top tier with only one tassel. That represents the three orders of the sacrament of Holy Orders. The bottom rung is deacon, the middle level is priest, and the top level is bishop. Why are there different numbers of tassels at each level: three, two, and one?

Those tassels represent how Jesus’ one priesthood is divided in Holy Orders, and the graces distributed at three levels of ministry. A deacon receives one-third of the graces of Holy Orders, so it takes three tassels (or three deacons) to equal Jesus’ the High Priest. A priest (like me) only receives half of the graces of the sacrament, so it takes two tassels (or two priests) to equal Jesus the High Priest. But the top shelf – the highest level – has only one tassel because a bishop receives all the graces of the sacrament of Holy Orders. And that is why we pray for our bishop by name at every Mass: because he needs it.

A bishop alone represents Jesus the High Priest, because he is no mere blushing bridesmaid, or some stumbling, bumbling best man. He is a veritable personification of Jesus, the Bridegroom, who loves his Bride, the Church, with all his heart. That is why only a bishop is given a ring at his ordination ceremony, but not a priest, and not a deacon. You could say that I am only 50% a priest. But my friend, Bishop Erik Pohlmeier, is 100% priest; he is a top level, single tassel. Why? Because on Friday, July 22, he received ALL the graces of the sacrament of Holy Orders. And I got to sit next to him as his chaplain and be his best man. And I got to be in all the pictures.

Praised be Jesus Christ!

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