Tuesday, August 5, 2025

Covered in Consecrated Hosts



Following the extraordinary example of Daphrose Rugamba

08/03/2025

Luke 12:13-21 Someone in the crowd said to Jesus, “Teacher, tell my brother to share the inheritance with me.” He replied to him, “Friend, who appointed me as your judge and arbitrator?” Then he said to the crowd, “Take care to guard against all greed, for though one may be rich, one’s life does not consist of possessions.” Then he told them a parable. “There was a rich man whose land produced a bountiful harvest. He asked himself, ‘What shall I do, for I do not have space to store my harvest?’ And he said, ‘This is what I shall do: I shall tear down my barns and build larger ones. There I shall store all my grain and other goods and I shall say to myself, “Now as for you, you have so many good things stored up for many years, rest, eat, drink, be merry!”’ But God said to him, ‘You fool, this night your life will be demanded of you; and the things you have prepared, to whom will they belong?’ Thus will it be for all who store up treasure for themselves but are not rich in what matters to God.”

Two weeks ago a friend, Dc. Angelo Volpi, handed me a book his wife, Lorel Wilhelm-Volpi, had written called Important Women of the 20th Century. Lorel rapidly reviewed the stories of 16 heroic women who lived their faith in extraordinary ways under excruciating circumstances. Angelo gave the book to Bishop Taylor who read one biography a day and completed the book in 16 days. I had to beat the bishop, so I read it in 7 days! Otherwise, what’s the point of the priesthood?

One of the 16 women touched my heart deeply: Daphrose Rugamba from Rwanda. Daphrose was born in 1944 and raised in a devout Catholic family. She was ethnically Tutsi, and married Cyprien Rugamba, a talented musician, poet, and choreographer. They had 9 children together. Unfortunately, Cyprien was unfaithful to Daphrose and had a child out of wedlock.

But Daphrose did not give up; instead, she not only forgave Cyprien’s adultery, she even adopted his son. In 1989 they established the Emmanuel Community to emphasize the dignity of each person, regardless of their ethnicity. They warmly welcomed both Tutsis and Hutus – bitter enemies in Rwanda – to join their Emmanuel Community and learn to live in peace with your enemy.

But on April 6, 1994, after they spent the night in Eucharistic Adoration, praying for peace, Hutu militia entered their family chapel and killed Daphrose, Cyprien, and 6 of their children. Lorel recounted the scene in her book: “The assassins gunned down the family and then fired into the tabernacle. When the Rugamba’s bodies were discovered they were covered with [consecrated] hosts.”

In other words, Daphrose was a living (and dying) icon of how to prioritize relationships above everything else. For example, she prized her husband and forgave his infidelity. She adored her family and not only had 9 children but adopted her husband’s child. She treasured the Rwandan people regardless of race. And she loved God above all who helped her to even love her enemies, the Hutus who murdered her.

In the gospel today, Jesus teaches the people how to put relationships before riches like Daphrose did. We read: “Someone in the crowd said to Jesus: “Teacher, tell my brother to share the inheritance with me.” That is, money mattered more to this man than the blood relationship with his brother. He put riches above relationships. By contrast, Jesus insists that we should be “rich in what matters to God.” And what matters most to God? Simple: our relationships with God and neighbor.

I would suggest to you that Daphrose Rugamba’s heroic and holy life can serve as a paradigm (or pattern) of how to be “rich in what matters to God” in three ways. First, Daphrose prioritized her family. In what ways can you enhance your family relationships? Some families attend Sunday Mass together and go out for breakfast or gather at their home.

Jeff and Norma Meares prepare breakfast for their kids and grands after the 7:30 a.m. Mass. The grandkids love breakfast at Poppy’s. Perhaps there’s a strained or broken relationship with a family member that needs mending. Take a bite of humble pie and say, “I’m sorry.” Or far more difficult, say, “I forgive you,” instead of obstinately holding on to old hurts.

Second, as Daphrose loved different ethnic groups, are there races that are hard to relate to for you? And by the way, we may feel we love everyone equally while we also harbor a spirit of superiority over them. How so? It’s a good thing to feel national pride as Americans but do we also sometimes believe that we are better than other countries and ethnicities?

As a child, I saw first-hand this subtle superiority in India. Growing up I could tell it was more desirable to be light-skinned than dark-skinned. Can you guess why? India had been ruled by the British for virtually 200 years. And like in the Stockholm syndrome, we Indians began to copy our British captors. We felt being light-skinned like them was better than being dark-skinned like us. Now though we get our revenge as all the white people go to the beach every summer to look like us brown people. Ha!

And third, as Daphrose emphasized her relationship with God, so we should find ways to strengthen our love for the Lord. That is, do things for Jesus because you want to not bcause you have to. For example, attend a weekday Mass, pray the rosary, listen to Catholic podcasts while driving, fast from all social media on Fridays.

By the way, thank you all for responding so generously to Fr. Samy’s mission appeal for his diocese back in May. Bishop Prakasam wrote a heart-felt letter of gratitude, saying: “The generous contributions of I.C. Church will help us educate poor children, evangelize illiterate people in rural villages, and care for leper patients.” That collection was our faith in action, where we gave because we wanted to, not because we had to.

My friends, we may not be called to a martyr’s death like Daphrose Rugamba, who died covered in consecrated Hosts. Nonetheless, we can imitate her virtues, by prioritizing relationships over riches. When our relationships with family, with others who are different, and with God are robust and revitalizing, we become truly “rich in what matters to God.”

Praised be Jesus Christ!