Seeing how death can clarify our priorities
10/14/2025
Luke 11:37-41 After Jesus had
spoken, a Pharisee invited him to dine at his home. He entered and reclined at
table to eat. The Pharisee was amazed to see that he did not observe the
prescribed washing before the meal. The Lord said to him, "Oh you
Pharisees! Although you cleanse the outside of the cup and the dish, inside you
are filled with plunder and evil. You fools! Did not the maker of the outside
also make the inside? But as to what is within, give alms, and behold,
everything will be clean for you."
You have probably heard the old
adage, “Don’t sweat the small stuff.” That means keep your heart and your head
preoccupied with important and truly urgent matters rather than drown in the
noise of daily details. But how can you tell the difference between the big
stuff and the small stuff?
They often look similar, and
sometimes, the small stuff looks even bigger. One way to distinguish the
significant from the small is to reflect on what we want people to remember us
for after we die. Death has a way of sifting the wheat from the chaff. This
past Saturday I presided at a funeral for Dr. Jim Post, who was 101 years old.
His grandchildren delivered
eloquent eulogies about how he attended their recitals, taught them about
flowers and vegetables in his garden, how he saved children’s lives as a
pediatrician, and what a devout Catholic he was. For example, there were four
priests present for his funeral.
Even though Jim Post did a lot of
things in over a century of life, he did not let the small stuff get bigger
than the big stuff, namely, faith, family, and flowers. Last night at dinner
Pat Nolte mentioned the difference in how we remember the Roman Emperors and
the early Christians, remarking: “We name our sons Peter and Paul, and we name
our dogs Nero and Caesar.” No offense to dogs! Peter and Paul didn't sweat the
small stuff, but Nero and Caesar did.
In the gospel today, Jesus tries to
teach a Pharisee how not to sweat the small stuff. When Jesus ignores the
dietary details of washing before the meal, the Pharisee is shocked and
scandalized. But Jesus reprimands him: “You cleanse the outside of the cup and
dish [but] inside you are filled with plunder and evil.” Jesus is warning him
in effect: “If you don’t differentiate between the what truly significant and
what’s merely small, people will name their dogs for you and not their sons.
Today we celebrate the Optional
Memorial of Pope St. Callistus I, martyr. Before he became pope he cared for a
cemetery on the famous Appian Way, which stretches from Rome to the southern
tip of Italy. Hence, he is the patron saint of cemetery workers.
He served as pope from 217 to 222,
and was the 16th pope, like Abraham Lincoln was the 16th president. He was
martyred in 222 during a popular uprising by being thrown down a well.
Pope Callistus is another example
of not sweating the small stuff. Perhaps by caring for the cemetery and
reflecting on the lives of the dead he learned that people remember us for the
significant matters in life. His life motto changed from, “Eat, drink and be
merry for tomorrow we die,” to “Pray, sacrifice, and love your neighbor for
tomorrow we die.” Only after death will we be able to accurately appraise what
was significant from what was small.’
My friends, take a minute to
reflect on your own life. Are you sweating the small stuff? Another way to ask
that questions is: “How will people remember you after you die?” One way to do
that is follow the example of Pope St. Callistus I: meditate on the lives of
loved ones who have passed and see what they are remembered for, like Dr. Jim
Post’s legacy of faith, family and flowers.
Every October, my father reminds me
to pray for our deceased family members. Do not forget the dead. At the
beginning of November, on Nov 2nd, we commemorate All Souls Day. We pray for
our beloved dead that they will soon complete purgatory and enter Paradise. And
by the way, why are our family and friends in purgatory in the first place?
I’ll give you one guess.
They were sweating the small stuff
instead of focusing on the significant stuff. Like Jesus said: “But as to what
is within, give alms, and behold everything will be made clean” that is, pure,
purged, purgatory. In other words, our priority should be the poor. When we
care for the needy on earth, they will be the ones who open the doors of heaven
for us. Death has a way of sifting the wheat from the chaff.
Praised be Jesus
Christ!